Can I share a story with you guys?
After Jake and I said our vows, we walked back into the English style manor we got married at for a few private moments and I had a full 3 minute breakdown.
Not from happiness...from panic.
I was blubbering that nothing changes, marriage doesn't change anything, and freakin' out that we can't take it back.
Holy crap, hey?
I was terrified of the idea of marriage, I didn't want to be trapped in a cookie cutter relationship, on a trajectory that had us stuck in suburbia, and sealed into a stagnant partnership.
Well let me tell you something.
As Jake was so calmly telling me to breathe, nothing changes, and that our marriage is exactly whatever we decide it to be--
I realized he was right.
As I eased my blubbering, his words sunk in.
Oh yeah, right. 😂
We talked about this.
Marriage is whatever we want to create it to be, as unique and special as our partnership is, we can design the relationship we want.
We can be dynamic and ever changing.
We can navigate the world together and with freedom.
When we started the idea of The Relationship Project last year, we had no idea what we were in for.
(Or, if we're being honest, what the hell we were doing! 😂)
I remember Jake and I having conversation after conversation about starting a blog, hosting events, and getting overwhelmed.
But then I remembered how overwhelmed I felt in those brief moments on our wedding day and knew we needed to get this message out there. To take off the pressure of perfect relationships.
So if this message hasn't sunk in yet, let me share it again.
Perfect isn't real, and real isn't perfect.
You can design the relationship you want, there's no rules, and as long as you're happy, that's all that matters.
This crazy @relationshipproject
journey with this man has been more than I ever expected.
Thank you to those of you who've been along for the ride!