Day 12 #BEYOUtifulU
- TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS: "The toxicity could be coming from them, from you, or from the explosive reaction that you both vibrate off each other’s energy... And it might not mean they are bad per say, but maybe they are bad for YOU... Those around you should bring out the best in you & you in them." - @cuchira
I've cut off a number of toxic relationships from my life.. Some unintentionally & just through life circumstances like marriage, moving, hobbies & motherhood.. It's as if the universe was taking care of me, telling me 'yo these relationships no longer serve you. Let me take care of u.' I still think of those people - part of me misses them. I wish them the best.. But I'm not the person I was when they were in my life.. And they might not be the people they were when they were in my life. Hopefully we're all growing into better versions of ourselves, and I thank them for playing a role in my life for some time because they were there for a reason. .
When it comes to family, however, this becomes more challenging for me. And I've thought about this daily (hence the late post). Cutting ties is not an option for me right now. It's family. However, reacting with kindness & compassion instead of toxic anger & defensiveness is something I can continue to work on. I can't fix them or their pain, but I can learn to control my reactions by cultivating mindfulness & self-protection, especially when I am around them. Visualization, pranayama & meditation beforehand help me with this. Even walking away for a bit & taking a break from the interaction can help too. Here’s to HEALTHY relationships for 2018! .
As for these current mind/body cleanses I'm on - some days are better than others but that doesn't mean I'm quitting #workinprogress
“May you reach that level within, where you no longer allow your past or people with toxic intentions to negatively affect or condition you.”
Lalah Delia #MovMEANT