That thing that you still do, the non-sense you still attract, the times you're afraid, angry, or out of control? The subjects where you're still immature, childish, spiteful, jealous, blaming, or afraid? The places you don't feel up to snuff, feel like a failure, or compare yourself to others? Your body, your career or lack of, your purpose, your direction, you finances and stability, your mate or gaping hole where you'd like One to be?
They aren't things to be ashamed of. Everyone has them. Those are the places that we're called forward into the work, into expansion, into grace, into humility, into opening up. Their existence does not invalidate all the other work you have done. The presence of triggers and lack of perfection as you would judge it to be does not mean you have failed. This too is part of the path.
And the path is a whole lot easier without the self-judgment and resistance to what-is in your life. If you want things to change, rush to the action of self-compassion and being easy about it, before you rush to do anything else, because One more step or word or action or reaction from that place of resistance is only going to keep you there longer.
Soften the resistance first. Get in alignment first. Drop the judgement first. And if you've got someone in your life you care about or that your results seem to be tied into? Then do all of that for them too, in your mind, and then in how you treat them. That's how miracles are made.
Get to Love first. All else will follow.