We live in an age when our social media presence can feel as important or more important than our actual presence in the world. We curate moments and use filters to project happiness and perfection, and it’s easy to start losing track of how we’re actually feeling on the inside. "I can’t be unhappy or isolated, look at all these pictures and videos where I’m smiling and surrounded by people." There is a gap for all of us, between the image we project on social media and the reality we experience. Ask yourself the following questions: How big is that gap for you? Why is it there? What about your real life do you feel cannot be shared or needs to be altered? Are you using social media to avoid acknowledging your own reality?
There’s a massive difference between projecting happiness and feeling happiness, that is a distinction that we always have to keep in mind. Likes don’t provide happiness, they provide a momentary dopamine rush that leaves us craving more. Lasting, oxytocin and serotonin based happiness comes from deeply connecting with others, doing things that bring us joy, and living authentically as ourselves.
As important as growing a following might be for you, you can’t let it take priority over your actual happiness and mental health.
Build from the inside out. When you have a decision to make, check in with yourself and ask what will FEEL good as opposed to what will look good. Choose to do the things and be with the people that recharge you and make you happy, not the things and people that will make you look the best on Instagram. Privilege your reality over your projection. #gaytherapy